In fact, there’s a classic example of what not to do in the 90s movie, Four Weddings and a Funeral. Real life is not like romantic fiction or the movies. This means any kind of shy, nervous behavior or any kind of stuttering, stammering awkwardness is a complete turn off. Instead, she wants to hear the words that let her know the man she’s with is a confident, masculine man who knows who he is and feels secure in himself as a result. However, unlike in the Mr-Darcy-type romantic novels set in the 19th century, the words a woman wants to hear to feel mentally aroused are no longer anything to do with flowery poetry or any other kind of over-romanticised mush.
When a woman is with a man who has what it takes to mentally arouse her, the physical arousal this naturally generates leaves her feeling powerless to resist him – and this is a feeling women love. Before a woman can feel physically aroused, she needs to feel mentally aroused.įor women, sexual arousal is all about feeling real sexual chemistry, and that’s something that begins in her mind and then works its way through the rest of her body.
